Which woman is the “hottest” in bed, plump or skinny? Is the myth true that “skinny women are frigid”? Does weight matter, and what does it take to become the most skilled lover? Psychologist-sexologist Valentin Denisov-Melnikov answers these questions to iReactor correspondents.
“You said very correctly - “there is a myth” that thin women are frigid. This is exactly what a myth looks like. Possibly distributed by overweight women themselves.
Just like the myth that bald men are the best lovers, it is also spread, apparently, by bald men themselves. It is common for a person to talk about the advantages of his lifestyle, religion, and even weight or manner of using cosmetics, and to belittle another lifestyle, faith, physique, or makeup features. This is understandable, but a little childish. Children also tell each other how cool it is to have exactly what they have now.
Of course, fat women can be understood. Nowadays, not just slim, but also athletic, toned bodies are in fashion. And what should those who are overweight do? It's not easy for them anyway. They are not in the mainstream, they themselves have long wanted to lose weight, they are reminded of their excess weight by the looks of others, by models in magazines and even by comments from family and friends. This is where psychological defense kicks in. And some people begin to devalue slimness with phrases such as “A man is not a dog, he doesn’t throw himself at bones.” But is it?
Practice shows that it throws! How he rushes! Put 10 thin, slender girls and ten overweight girls side by side, and then ask men who they would prefer to have sex with? Do you think that slender girls will be rejected and left to cry, and men will choose all the plump ones as their partners? Well, to be honest? What do you think?
Another phrase typical of psychological defense and justification for excess weight is “A skinny cow is not a gazelle.” Well, definitely. Is a fat cow a gazelle? Moreover, no. And in general, nothing can turn a cow into a gazelle. There is no need to compare two different types. But a slender gazelle is definitely better and more natural than an obese gazelle. This is also where the statement comes from: that fat women are passionate, and thin women are frigid,” noted psychologist-sexologist Valentin Denisov-Melnikov.
“Yes, there is an opinion that the most passionate women are short women of normal build. That is, it is believed that in terms of sexuality, it is not tall, thin women of the asthenic type and not short, full of hypersthenic physique, but normosthenics - women of normal, proportional physique, with slender legs, a thin waist and, in general, beautiful harmonious figure. Height is usually average. So if there is any truth here, it is in the middle. A normal physique and short stature may indicate the likelihood of higher sexual appetites. But it’s about probability, and not about the fact that this is always the case.
A woman's sexuality greatly depends on many factors. And first of all, from the emotional component. If a woman is in love with a man and just gets lost in the feeling, she is likely to have an amazingly vibrant sex life, regardless of her body type. If she is critical, skeptical and unenthusiastic about her partner, then she may have difficulty with arousal and orgasm, even if before that everything was great in her intimate life.
In general, the further your weight is from the norm, the more likely you are to have problems in your sex life. People who are too thin can be immersed in thoughts about their body, about further weight loss and weight retention. People who are too fat can worry a lot about their weight. Both do not contribute to a harmonious sex life and sexual activity.
According to statistics, 30-40% of women have difficulties with orgasm. And it doesn't really depend on weight. Other factors play a much larger role here. Yes, with the help of a psychologist or sexologist, many women manage to improve their sex lives, but how many turn to specialists for help? No, this is rather an exception. More often than not, people prefer to deny and ignore the problem rather than solve it with a specialist. Many people eat sexual problems. And more than once I had the opportunity to see how a fragile, thin girl gradually became larger and fuller, but this did not go away from her problems with orgasm. She didn't get any sexier either. Quite the contrary.
So remember that no matter your body type, you can be sexy, desirable, and fulfilled. And giving up some psychological defenses (such as “thin people are frigid”) will help you begin to deal with your problems, rather than console yourself with the fact that someone else’s sex life is even worse. And remember that good sex relieves stress, reduces weight, and strengthens your abs,” summed up sex psychologist Valentin Denisov-Melnikov.
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Every girl's dream is to be thin. However, excessive thinness is not a virtue, and sometimes leads to mental and physical illness. Slender, long-legged models look at us from the covers of glossy magazines, the Internet claims that being thin is great, and nutritionists insist on a variety of diets. And the girls begin to lose weight. By any means necessary to be fashionable and sexy.
Patients with anorexia or bulimia
It may seem that anorexia and bulimia are two opposite diseases, because with anorexia a girl refuses to eat even the smallest amount of food, and with bulimia, on the contrary, episodes of gluttony constantly occur. But both of these diseases are the result of an eating disorder due to fear of gaining weight. The constant struggle with excess weight is, first of all, stress and various psychological disorders, which greatly affect health and sometimes lead to death.
Signs of an impending illness:
- dissatisfaction with your own weight, you constantly want to lose “extra” pounds, even with a normal build;
- excessive passion for various diets;
- attacks of animal appetite;
- aversion to certain types of food;
- passion for diuretic, laxative, emetic properties;
- sleep disorder, constant depression.
Very skinny models
The fashion for anorexia is very common in the modeling business. The notorious “size zero” worries the minds of not only models, but also fashion business tycoons. It's no longer enough just to have skinny girls with toned figures. Often, young girls who are not just thin, but skinny, are hired into the modeling business. Some countries, such as Israel, Spain, Italy, have already introduced bans on showing very thin models. Next in line is France, where there are about 40 thousand girls with anorexia due to the promotion of unhealthy thinness.
But there are several models who have achieved world fame thanks to their too thin figure. We offer the top 5 thinnest fashion models in the world:
- Twiggy. With a height of 169 cm, the girl weighed only 40 kg. Despite the fact that her career lasted only 4 years, Twiggy became a style icon of the 60s and the founder of the fashion for anorexic models.
- Veruschka (Vera von Lehndorff). She was also extremely thin in the 60s. With a height of 190 cm, the model weighed only 50 kg. As the girl claimed, in order not to gain weight, she ate almost nothing but eggs.
- Kate Moss. British model with parameters: 170 cm and 48 kg. Due to her constant fear of gaining weight, Kate became addicted to drugs. Heroin often accompanied anorexia, leading to the death of many models. Fortunately, Kate was not one of them.
- Jamie King. This American model and actress also at one time underwent treatment for addiction to drugs and alcohol. With a height of 175 cm, Jamie weighed 49 kg, and her gaunt, thin face and long, thin legs at one time terrified even her colleagues.
- Anna Reston. The Brazilian fashion model has become the latest victim of anorexia. With a height of 170 cm, by October 2006 she weighed 40 kg. Unfortunately, her story had a sad ending. The girl was hospitalized and died of anorexia a month later.
The thinnest girl in the world (PHOTO)
You can see photos of thin girls not only among professional fashion models. The thinnest woman in the world is Lizzie Velasquez, who was included in the Guinness Book of Records due to her thinness. With a height of 157 cm, Lizzie weighs only 25 kg. But she claims that she does not have anorexia, and the reason for her thinness is a serious disease called metabolic disorder syndrome. She buys only high-calorie food and eats every 15-20 minutes up to 60 times a day.
Most skinny person in the world: photo by Lizzie Velasquez
In Russia
The thinnest woman in Russia, Valeria Levitina, encountered the problem of anorexia at the age of 20. Now she is 39 years old, and the former model weighs 25 kg with a height of 155 cm. To lose extra pounds, the girl tried a large number of different diets. Constant personal complexes and the strict demands of the modeling business led her to illness. Now Valeria cannot taste food and eats according to a special system that was developed for her by doctors.
Valeria Levitina: before and after photos
Is it possible to be beautiful if you are very thin?
If you are too exhausted appearance all girls have a typical: complete absence of fatty tissue on the cheeks, neck, chest, abdomen, buttocks, thighs. When walking, indentations of the supraclavicular fossae, very thin limbs and jutting bones are visible. The skin sags in some places. In the clinical practice of doctors, there are often cases where, with loss of body weight, muscles, skin, and bones atrophy. How can this be beautiful?
How to dress to hide extreme thinness?
But girls can be thin by nature or due to hereditary factors. Sometimes they themselves are not averse to acquiring more feminine, appetizing forms, but even high-calorie nutrition does not help. However, with the right selection of wardrobe, it is easy to give a thin figure additional volume. The first thing skinny women need to do is stop wearing wide, shapeless dresses and robes - clothes should be feminine in order to hide sharp corners. Some tips for choosing clothes for thin girls:
- For volume, use layers in your look: wear several sweaters that harmoniously complement each other, over a blouse, cardigans or two tops at once;
- Avoid too deep necklines, replacing them with a boat neckline or shallow V-neck;
- Buy long skirts and dresses with a loose fit to hide skinny legs;
- Buy things with an abundance of flounces, quitrents and ruffles;
- All kinds of scarves or blouses with a high collar will help hide a thin neck;
- Don't wear tight trousers, instead pay attention to flared models.
How to choose clothes for tall and extremely thin people
Tall height emphasizes thinness even more, so girls with such parameters should also carefully select their wardrobe. Stylists recommend that overly thin young ladies wear blouses and dresses with a yoke that will hide their thin chest and shoulders, and choose horizontal designs to disguise their tall stature. You should use the maxi length for both everyday and evening wear.
Remember that the worst enemies of a thin figure have been and remain tight clothes, which only aggravate the angularity, emphasizing the lack of feminine forms. It is also advisable for tall girls to avoid high-heeled shoes. Ballet flats, shoes and boots with low wedges are best. Following our advice will help a thin and tall girl make her image more tender, as well as focus on the main advantage of a thin physique - thin waist.
1 place
For more than 150 years, the thinnest woman in the world has been considered Lucia Zarate, who lived in San Carlos. She reached her maximum weight by the age of twenty. By this time he weighed 6 kilograms with a height of 55 centimeters. Thanks to her petite build, Lucia made a spectacular career in the American circus, where she performed in freak shows. Her life was cut short in 1890, at the age of 29. She died of hypothermia, along with other passengers, becoming a prisoner of a train stuck in the mountains.
2nd place 
Among those living today, our compatriot, a resident of the Chelyabinsk region, is distinguished by the greatest thinness Natalya Zhultaeva. Having experienced severe stress after breaking up with her boyfriend, the girl stopped eating and eventually became anorexic. Having lost 30 kilograms, Natalya, with a height of 68 centimeters, weighs only 21 kilograms.
3rd place 
One of the thinnest women in the world is an American Lizzie Velasquez. Having a height of 157 centimeters, the girl weighs 28 kilograms. Lizzie was born weighing less than 1 kilogram, and doctors predicted a short life for her. But the girl grew up and entered university. Lizzie leads a normal life. The only thing that causes her some inconvenience is the need to eat high-calorie food every quarter of an hour. Lizzie does not suffer from anorexia. Doctors have not yet found out the reasons for her extreme thinness.
4th place 
The French woman weighed only 28 kilograms Isabel Caro, who died of anorexia at age 28. From the age of 13, Isabel suffered from severe depression because of her mother, who was so attached to her that she did not even let her go outside. Gradually, Isabel began to limit herself in food, trying to remain a little girl. Caro described her life in the book “The Little Girl Who Didn’t Want to Get Fat.” In 2003, 3 years before her death, Isabelle posed for a photo shoot dedicated to the fight against anorexia.
5th place 
Until recently, the smallest weight in the world (25 kilograms) was Valeria Levitina, a Russian native, taken by her parents to Chicago as a child. Since all the women in the family suffered overweight, mother constantly limited Valeria’s food intake. Then, having won the Miss Chicago competition, Valeria decided to connect her life with the modeling business and began to follow a strict diet. As a result, by the age of 24, she began to weigh 38 kilograms and was 172 centimeters tall. And I couldn’t gain weight again. In 2013, Valeria died of anorexia at the age of 39.
6th place 
Twins from England Katie And Maria Campbell, started “improving” their body at the age of 11. They did not want to gain weight with age, and deliberately reduced their food intake to the possible minimum. Currently, the sisters weigh 38 kilograms. They acquired anorexia, and with it a lot of health problems and an unattractive appearance.
7th place 
Model Anna Reston died of anorexia in 2006, weighing 40 kilograms. After winning beauty pageants, the girl had enormous success as a model. But in 2004 in China she was called fat, and she decided to achieve it at all costs. perfect figure. A diet that included only apples and tomatoes led her to a sad ending for 2 years.
8th place 
Mannequin Twiggy, with a height of 169 centimeters, weighed only 40 kilograms. Oddly enough, she was admired, and many women dreamed of having 80-50-80 proportions like a modeling star. It is believed that it was Twiggy who became the trendsetter for anorexia.
9th place 
According to the Guinness Book of Records, the owner of the narrowest waist in the world is Katie Jang. This woman has been wearing a corset since she was 28, almost never taking it off. As a result, her waist reached 38 centimeters. Although Katya is now over 70, she does not intend to give up her habits.
10th place 
And finally, let's say a few words about Ione Spangerberg , which is called a living hourglass. In addition to its very small weight (only 40 kilograms), Iona has one of the most narrow waists in the world. Its volume is 50 centimeters. Jonah is quite healthy. She works as a fashion model and has a family. The reason for the low weight remains a mystery, both for the girl herself and for the doctors.
In contact there is a group - “40 kilograms”. The girls in it strive for this weight and create their own idea of beauty. What kind of thin body parts do they find attractive and do men like this? Voting is for boys. Girls can test themselves for fatness.
1.
- gap between legs
The dream of not only every anorexic woman, but also every first chubby woman is the cherished distance between her legs. Some of my friends call it "wheel alignment", others - "slingshot". In some girls it is pronounced, in others it is very pronounced, but there are also those girls for whom it is naturally very difficult to achieve perfection - no matter how thin they become, the coveted hole does not appear. Is it necessary? What do you say, boys?
2.
- protruding collarbone
A fetish from the era of “heroin chic,” when a skinny Kate Moss was on magazine covers. The protruding collarbone symbolizes trepidation and defenselessness, aristocracy and grace. True, other, not so flattering features often appear along with it - for example, protruding ribs. But here, whoever likes what. You like?
3.
- sunken cheeks and prominent cheekbones
Example: Angelina Jolie. The girls believe that the more the cheeks “sink”, the better. A fan of this feature is the wife of a London billionaire and eccentric blonde, Kristina Sysoeva, widely known in narrow circles. To achieve such beauty, she not only constantly goes on diets, but also had some of her teeth removed. Not in vain?
4.
- narrow back and prominent ribs
It’s hard to disagree with the fact that an actress playing, for example, Juliet, should have a thin and fragile back. A wide, fleshy back with ridges on the sides is more suitable for peasant women with many children and other typical heroines. Therefore, our “40 kilograms” fight fiercely for protruding shoulder blades, a spine tearing through the skin and other signs of a ballerina. What will the men say?
5.
- slim stomach
I think no one will argue here at all. A flat stomach is a fetish for all times. The only person I remember who thought differently was Quentin Tarantino’s heroine from pulp fiction, babbling about pie. In any case, a flat stomach, symbolizing that the lady is definitely not pregnant, really attracts men. Remember the 2000s craze for bare, pierced belly buttons? Same thing.
6.
- pronounced waist
It would seem that there is nothing to argue about here, but I will try anyway. There is nothing wrong with a thin waist in itself. The bad stuff starts when they try to hypertrophy it. For example, they don’t get out of a corset for several years, or they remove their ribs, as Vika Vicious did, whom I have been observing for many years. There are rumors that Odessa Barbie had the same operation. Was it not in vain that they tortured themselves for the sake of men?
7.
- protruding pelvic bones
A piquant mound of bone on low-waisted jeans - what could be sexier? At least that's what many people think
Do you like it?
Do you think these signs of thinness are beautiful? All or just some? What do you think?
The phrase “Beauty is a terrible force!” probably familiar to everyone. And indeed, sometimes the desire for beauty pushes people to do truly terrible things, forcing them to abuse radical methods for losing weight and leading to death.
One of the most terrible examples is the story of Valeria Levitina, the thinnest woman in the world. At 39 years old, Valeria looks like a living mummy - with a height of 172 centimeters, she weighs only 25 kilograms, like a 6-year-old child. And the worst thing is that the woman did all this to herself on her own.
In 1989, Valeria and her parents moved from Moscow to the USA. The young girl had a very beautiful appearance and easily won the beauty contest in 1994, becoming the owner of the title “Miss Chicago”. This was the beginning of the end for Valeria...
Lera got into the habit of constantly weighing herself as a child: all the women in her family had weight problems, so the caring mother constantly weighed her little daughter and was afraid that she was too fat. Having won a beauty contest in the USA and decided to become a model, Levitina began desperately to lose weight. In a very short time, the 19-year-old girl lost a lot of weight, but did not stop there - and by the age of 24 she weighed only 38 kilograms.
This is what Valeria looked like before - before she decided to lose weight
Now one of the thinnest people in the world, she lives in Monaco - only here, thanks to the constant sunny and warm weather, she feels more or less comfortable. Valeria can hardly taste food, and grocery shopping turns into hell. She finally managed to get rid of the eating disorder, which Levitina struggled with for more than 20 years, but the woman still cannot gain weight.
The story of Lizzie Velasquez is not at all similar to the story of Valeria Levitina - unlike the latter, Lizzie did not seek to lose weight on her own. The girl was born in 1989 with a very rare disease - neonatal progeroid syndrome, as a result of which her body is not able to accumulate fat deposits. At the moment, Velasquez weighs only 26 kilograms.
Newborn Lizzie weighed only 1.2 kilograms - and in 24 years she never managed to overcome the 27 kilogram bar. To simply survive, the girl has to eat every 15 minutes and consume from 5 to 8 thousand calories a day.
It is worth giving the girl her due: despite the terrible disease, which led to her becoming one of the thinnest people in the world, she did not give up and took up educational activities. Over the past few years, Velazquez has written several books and organized over 200 performances.
Lizzie Velasquez with her family - parents, sister and brother
Velasquez at an autograph session with his book “Be Beautiful, Be You”
The European media dubbed Ioana Spangenberg a “living hourglass”: the girl’s waist circumference is only 50 centimeters, and her weight is only a little more than 38 kilograms. Nobody knows what caused the extreme thinness: Ioana herself tirelessly denies in all interviews that she suffers from anorexia.
As a child, Ioana was quite an ordinary child, and began to lose weight already in adolescence. Despite all his efforts, Spangerberg can’t gain weight - although, according to his own statement, he eats pizza, chocolate bars and other sources of “quick kilos” every day.
In 2006, Spangerberg got married and began working as a fashion model - designers, apparently, are completely delighted with the “living mannequin”.
Men, for the most part, suffer much less from defects in appearance. According to statistics, only 15% of all patients diagnosed with anorexia or bulimia are men. However, for some men, the pursuit of beauty ends in tragedy. The clearest example is the story of Jeremy Gillitzer, a former fashion model who died in 2010 after a 25-year battle with anorexia at the age of 38. At the time of his death, he weighed only 30 kilograms and was one of the thinnest people in the world.
At the age of 12, little Jeremy was first diagnosed with anorexia, and by the age of 14 he learned to swallow laxatives so that he could lose 1-3 kilograms at a time. Over the next few years, the young man traveled to clinics - first private, and then, when his insurance ran out, public. And finally, a miracle happened - 20-year-old Gillitzer somehow recovered. With the same passion that he had lost weight before, Jeremy started working out at the gym, got a great figure and found work as a fashion model.
The magic didn't last long. In 2004, Gillitzer broke up with his first (and only) boyfriend, his mother became seriously ill, and Jeremy himself was involved in two car accidents within a month. Depression forced the successful fashion model to return to old habits. Unfortunately, this time attempts at treatment did not lead to success - Gillitzer died a few years later.
